How to create a wedding guest list without inviting everyone you know is one of the most asked questions from our clients. We have created a simple and easy to understand/execute system and we call it the “A, B, C’s”…
Here’s how: First you create three lists of invited attendees. Create an A, B and C List.
THE A LIST: A’s are people who you are inviting (and they will come) no matter what. These people are usually your immediate family and very closest friends.
THE B LIST: B’s are your extended circle of friends and extended family. Cousins, bestie at work, friends on the fringe and family friends you’ve known your whole life.
THE C LIST: C’s are people like your co-workers (bosses and other co-workers who you like a lot but never invite to your home, not your co-worker bestie!) and old friends and neighbors, otherwise your “acquaintances”.
Now here’s the punch line…You only invite (and send invites to) A and B list people first. This is your main guest list. This is the count we plan your wedding for. Then, when an “A or B” guest reply with a “no we can not make it” you can move a “C” guest into their place and send them an invite. We suggest not sending invites to C’s until B’s or A’s have declined your invite.
STILL NOT SURE WHICH LIST YOUR GUESTS FALL INTO?
Let me give you a PRO TIP: If you had one weekend off and you were inviting people to your home to hang, BBQ or spend your free time off with -and a person on your guest list wouldn’t be welcome to spend this day off with you then they shouldn’t be invited to THE most special and important day of your life, your wedding.
When you put it into perspective this way it makes it easier to not invite someone.
Or, similarly, if you would not spend $100 on this person for dinner on any other regular day of the year then they probably shouldn’t be invited to your wedding. Most couples spend $100++ per head once their planning is all said and done.